The archive
9 pieces covering the emotional work, the practical agreements, and the wider world you have to navigate.
A critical look at emotional hedging, care labor, and accountability in polyamorous relationships — inspired by Barucha Peller's essay on polyamory as a reserve army of care labor.
Tabby Gentry ·
A reframing of metamour relationships in polyamory: kitchen table, garden party, and parallel are descriptions, not instructions, and the hinge is not a relationship manager.
Tabby Gentry ·
Opening an established relationship starts with the wrong question. Exclusivity never created trust, care, or security — here's what actually protects a relationship.
Tabby Gentry ·
Polyamory means multiple loving relationships with consent. Learn how it differs from cheating, open relationships, and common relationship structures.
Tabby Gentry ·
Jealousy is a junk drawer of fear, envy, grief, and comparison. Here's how to sort through what's really happening in polyamory.
Tabby Gentry ·
Polyamory doesn't cause abuse, but it has failure modes. A look at information silos, narrative control, and why relationship skills matter more than structure.
Tabby Gentry ·
A real-world look at what communication in polyamorous relationships actually means: saying it while it's small, boundaries, deflection, and when communication isn't enough.
Tabby Gentry ·
A revised look at autonomy in polyamorous relationships: what it means, what it doesn't mean, and how to own your choices without offloading responsibility.
Tabby Gentry ·
A reframed look at how polyamory challenges romance-centered culture — amatonormativity, the value of friendship, care networks, and why sexual relationships should not be the only ones that count.
Tabby Gentry ·